Looking at this article, i wonder if we'll ever be able to figure any of this out. I feel pretty hopeless about the entire situation.
I'm not saying "don't worry about it" as an uncle with two nieces I know how difficult it would be just to ignore something. You want your family and dependents to have happy full lives and every little struggle makes you worry and think. But what I am saying is, have a little hope. When you see articles like this, they are normally talking about theoretical and philosophical meanings of what intelligence and consciousness is, there is plenty of solid practical and applied science and progress that relates to your daughter's situation.
Don't get yourself worked up about the ponderings of math and computer nerds. The real life changing stuff is not being done in AI right now, its being done in universities, hospitals, and laboratories by scientists, doctors, and professors.