When people fail, a lot of things go bad. Many of them get depressive, they go through a lot.
It's like saying that having abusive parents make you a strong person. Completely bullshit.
I doubt this has any positive effect on "setting somebody up" for success. It is much easier to be successful if you don't mess it up. For most of the world, people aren't even allowed to fail once.
Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is “I am bad.” Guilt is “I did something bad.” - Dr Brene Brown. Failure treated as a guilt may lead to learning and be fixed, but if treated as Shame may lead to depression.
Sort of like when college failures end up as leaders and go into tell everyone to work hard because obviously that is what is stopping everyone else /s
Also...please define failure?
I learned to document everything in writing so that I have a paper trail for later. Fortunately it didn't come to a lawsuit from the unhappy customer but it got close. Having everything documented so it was 100% clear I never wanted to sell the system and spent scads of time trying to fix it anyway, not to mention communication from the vendor saying "It work won't and we told you it won't work" would have made life much easier for me if it came to discovery.
i wouldn't consider What happened to you a failure, that's just work. Wrong decisions happen all day every day in all kinds of businesses. What part of the experience would you consider the "failure"? The only thing i can think of is just lack of experience for that particular situation. I wouldn't qualify lack of experience as failure.
A failure to me is not delivering what you promised with it being in your full control to do so. But, like i said, failure can mean all kinds of things.
Modern childhood seems to go out of its way to isolate children from feelings of failure and learning healthy coping mechanisms thereof.
With this in mind, its probably helpful to learn the sting of failure earlier rather than later in your career.
In the cases where the stakes aren’t so high, then we’re just talking about compassion and not being a complete jerk to someone who fucked up.
But it’s absolutely necessary to come up with an actionable follow up if you do this. That’s where the success is. Just throwing up your hands and saying “awww gee, I done did it all wrong!” and letting the opportunity slip by is a great way to encourage even more failure, and not the useful kind.
That is to say, it’s gotta be failure with some self-imposed accountability.
The population being investigated is significantly smaller than that, though.
Specifically, it's people with STEM PhDs, and everything that comes along with that: Likely from a wealthier than average family, performed extremely well in school (at least in their area of interest), etc. And they're in a position to write a grant proposal, which requires a good deal of confidence.
So, among those extremely successful and intelligent people who are very confident and likely never experienced much hardship at all, if you experience a setback you may be better off in the long run.
I don't get this analogy at all.
Failure falls on a pretty broad spectrum, from minor setbacks to complete catastrophes. IME, failures across a wide center of that spectrum are really valuable (if you choose to learn from them), with the left being not very useful, and the right being disastrous. Ideally, one doesn't take so much risk that their failures fall on the right.
Personally, I feel like most of my wins today are consequences of my past failures.