I know, most of the time the side I was getting was the side of the story my male friends told me.
But for the last 5-10 years I also got the side of my female partners.
Sometimes even both sides in parallel, because my partners would date my friends.
OK so you have no more information than anyone else? We all have friends who talk about relationships and its all anecdata. Not to mention you have a very specific group of open and non-standard people which could give a very different selection of behaviors than the normal population.
And?
Your fun little hippie commune doesn't extrapolate very well to society at large.