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To make an analogy: a singer artist in his town used to be 'good enough'. Now he competes with YouTube and tours from 'alpha' artists in nearby cities.

So yeah, women can pick adventures with alpha males (especially considering looks) instead of a long term relationship with the average guy. This leaves almost nothing (ok-ish) for the average guy.

What's an average guy supposed to do? I'm genuinely interested in answers.

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Have fun with older women who got past their teeny screamy phase, whilst learning how to be charming, interesting and good conversation. Steadily improve your looks and build up a career. Then by the time the average man reaches thirty he'll find he can easily compete with YouTube singers if he really wants to date 20 year olds, but also women his own age or older too.

Worked for me. Yes young men struggle to date young women, but wasn't it always like that? Women respond to age and age signals in the reverse way to men.

Evolve? Or, in more words:

When you are experiencing something you'd call "hardship"; first, go slower with yourself; then consider: Are you trying to become numb to something unpleasant or painful, or are you in an opportunity to become more than who you once were?

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