On my new Ryzen 3600 with 32G of ram it runs smooth. So if you go for JetBrains, I definitely advise not to cheap out on the hardware.
Rider on Linux was very good for me, working on C# azure functions.
Not to mention how crazy it sounds having 32GB for an IDE.
Visual Studio, Netbeans and Eclipse run perfectly fine with 8 GB.
I was working app support really, with a fair bit of dev work as well, so needed to run a ton of different tools.
Add Docker, VM, development database server etc. to the bill, and a 32 GB machine is pretty reasonable for a dev.
I agree that JetBrains stuff is resource hungry (maybe excessively so); to me it is still worth using it for Java, C#, Python, iOS and Android. For C++ I prefer Qt Creator (though I must say that the idea of switching to CLion and having a consistent IDE experience across all platforms that I work on is tempting).
Visual Studio with Resharper chokes and dies pretty badly when you get into large solutions with 100k+ LOC and many projects. For years I've been seeing problems when memory usage gets close to 2GB, and the editor and intellisense starts getting laggy and unresponsive. For whatever reason, it is really bad if you have web applications with JS in the mix, to the point where I have resorted to just running WebStorm in parallel to do any front-end work.
[1] Other paid-for Jetbrains products such as IntelliJ Ultimate have the same integration