> it is unfeasible to expect society to shape itself around coddling that person's beliefs
What indication do you have that a majority of the "society" in question (Stack Overflow) has a problem with addressing people in the manner they prefer?
In other words, have you considered the possibility that you are the one with an opinion or belief that runs contrary to what this "society" expects of its members?
If so, are you expecting to be coddled?