When you combine this with the fact that these ML programs are not proofs but proof scripts, that perform a lot of "unnecessary" work like searching for a proof rather than just going straight for the answer, it suddenly begins to make sense why these systems take on the order of hours to days to check their whole libraries.
Coq and Lean are somewhere in the middle, because they have proof terms, but the logic itself still requires some unbounded computations. Checking a proof here is often fast, unless you make too much use of computation in the logic. But people often don't care about proof terms, and still store the proof scripts, which are as slow as ever.
Metamath is in this setting somewhat unique in eschewing proof scripts altogether, or more accurately, inlining proof scripts immediately on the author's machine. The resulting proofs are often comparatively long and verbose, but I would argue this is only a display matter, since all the other provers are doing the same thing, they just aren't showing it.