1. Debian and Ubuntu stop packaging any Ruby libraries which aren't dependencies of an actual end-user application. If rubygems itself is a library dependency, package it but take away the gem command.
2. Make a public policy saying "If you want to do development, use RVM," and have metapackages with the dependencies for building each RVM ruby (so ruby-dev-mri, ruby-dev-jruby, and so on). Make sure that users know that if they think they need to run "gem install foo", then they need RVM.
It'd be nice for RVM to be able to build system packages, but I don't think it's necessary: there are already systems (nascent, but improving) for converting gems to system packages which handle dependencies nicely.
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