That's very insightful.
And yet those men are still sexist, but in a protective way.
And yet those men are still sexist, but in a protective way.
I've long believed the antidote to "bad men" is "good men." In contrast, a lot of rape victims simply conclude all men are evil and it becomes a barrier to recovery.
I think they don't know another way to feel safe. It seems like the safe bet to them: just don't trust any men.
That wasn't my reaction.
I think we desperately need to work on the societal problems that foster situations like that. Far too often, there is a crucible of social baggage involved.
My takeaway: Have private relationships and don't let the world butt into them. It's hard enough for two people to agree what's okay. It gets vastly harder when other parties get involved.
I read one article where two college students hooked up, everything was initially fine, then the girl's mother basically talked her into charging the guy with rape.
If you weren't there, I don't want your opinion of what happened to me. You can apply your personal baggage to your own sex life/experiences. Keep it out of mine.
She did not had choice in whether she can stay in contact with her rapist, tho, despite the money. But it is nice she did not had to marry him, have children with him and be dependent on his income.
Humans try to rationalize a world full of unknowns most often with their own lenses.