Psychological Effects of a 1-Month Meditation Retreat
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10 days of not talking to anyone, meditating everyday in a group, sleeping with a schedule, eating clean, being away from acquaintances, away from smartphones, social media or electronic distractions, away from shopping and ads, away from the soulless job and the crushing commute meant I could no longer ignore or drown out those thoughts in my head keeping me up at night and I had to consume them so they no longer haunt me.
The effects were long lasting, better than what I got from meditating at home with the aid of apps, but only if you commit to living a healthy lifestyle after. If you go back to eating junk and swiping on Instagram at 2 A.M, it's on you.
Would recommend you give it a try of you can.
I can easily imagine that if you're not being distracted on all sides constantly, those crippling insecurities and chronic stress all come into focus, because there's nothing else to think about.
But I don’t feel I experienced that I consumed my thoughts. If anything, I saw how I thought. I saw how I’m smart and how I’m crazy. And how being social keeps me sane since it breaks the loop.
During the retreat, there is regularly coaching on how to acknowledge these thoughts and feelings and let them go. So the idea behind these retreats is to give you the tools to deal with these thoughts and feelings and then put you in a situation where you are almost forced to confront them. That's what the parent commenter was referring to by "consuming".
My girlfriend had a fantastic experience and said that she is in a much better mental state than she was before.
Disclaimer: These are my thoughts as I understand it from secondhand experience. Definitely look more into yourself if it's something you want to learn more about.
I understand that I'm being naive here, that "the Dharma is free but the light is not." Perhaps if cheap retreat is not an option, you can also reframe my thinking about the cost.
1. https://www.dhamma.org/en-US/courses/search
2. https://www.dhamma.org/en/about/qanda
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I can also offer a rough line-item of where money goes, on retreat that have a sticker price:
1.) Cost. Many communities don't have their own retreat facilities and are thus basically booking room and board at a venue. Every venue has different amenities, costs, and profit models, but even a retreat site that operates at low margins as a gift, where retreatants share rooms and do substantial amounts of their own cooking and cleaning, even that is easily going to top $50 per person per day, while having a basically "resort-ish" experience where the group has single rooms and very little chores can approach $200 per day (in California).
2.) Back into the community who volunteered to organize it. There's probably 100-200+ labor hours behind every retreat, which is done in part so the teachings and practice can flourish, but is also motivated by the need to keep paying rent and other expenses on the community's primary practice and meeting space.
3.) To subsidize others. I think the teacher or leader of almost anything typically pays a reduced rate or nothing in recognition for their skill and leadership. Additionally it's not uncommon for part of the "profit" from retreats to be rolled into a scholarship funds for those whose ability to contribute is less than the bottom line costs, when the amount from donations doesn't match the need.
Also, Buddhism, and even more so mindfulness isn't necessarily concerned with conforming to our ideas of minimalist or anti-materialistic. While it's true that renunciation is often presented as part of the Buddhist path, retreats meet people where they are in their readiness to leave their comforts behind. A 5 - 14 day retreat might offer such comforts as the presence of a swimming pool or lounge furniture during break times so that people don't feel like they've joined monastic boot camp. There's many different things that get called "meditation retreat" and generally they're each well suited for different people at different times.
Which is great, but makes me wonder if the meditation aspect isn't what's central to the experience.
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I do a good amount of solo backpacking (or with a long-term friend who can appreciate hours of silence as much as I can, instead of filling the time with constant conversation), and I feel I could write the same post as you from that experience, but it doesn't really involve anything I would label "meditation".
This sounds like the opposite of all happiness research which seems to suggest that interacting face to face with people is the most strongly correltated activity to happiness.
Thoughts?
This apparenrtly comes up in research on all the ways we've gotten rid of interaction. ATMs replaced bank tellers at the start and now you can order a coffee on your phone and walk in and pick it up all without talking to anyone. Most people love that but the research suggests they'd be happier if they interacted with the barrista and the teller. Yes I'm sure you can recall jerk tellers or barristas but on average they aren't jerks.
In other words their feeling that being able to interact with as few people as possible which they think will make them happier is actually having the opposite effect. This research includes introverts like myself. I love feeling self sufficient. I can go to a new city and basically talk to no one. I use Google Maps to find my way around. Buy train tickets online or tram tickets from kiosks, etc.. but apparently I'd be happier if I ask people how to get some place and sure I'm happy I can get tickets easier than waiting but that convience apparently needs to be replaced by interacting with more people not less.
I have a friend from home country who works in wall streets. She went to Princeton and is pretty high up there in management echelon. She has a fierce and competitive personality. She would always encourage me to go on meditation retreats in MA (Massachusetts), and she goes there pretty often. She also goes to a meditation group who meet near Times Square every few weeks. But you know what, I found her life to be miserable. She has had at least two mental breakdowns that I know of. She is always inquisitive of what I am doing, what job I have, how much I make at the moment whenever I see her. In my mind, I wanted to tell her, "Sister (a way of addressing someone older with respect in my culture), you're always stressed out and need meditation therapy because you are always worried about what/how others are doing. Meditation wouldn't help you much if you keep doing this." But of course, I don't want to spoil our friendship, so I never told her that.
I think I see a lot of meditation posts in HN because people here are chasing a lot of things at the same time. In other words, people here tend to be over-achievers and ambitious. I am not one, and I'm okay without meditation. I always try to take middle-path (that is the core of Buddhist teaching from my understanding) if I can; limit my wants and only try to fill my essential needs; try to always judge myself as a human (with needs/wants) first and then from a third person's point of view (to be self-aware so that I can control myself when I'm too upset/having a bad day); and in general, I just try to reduce as much "ah-ku-tho" (bad karma including greed, envy, anxiety, anger, etc.) as I can from my daily life.
Hope this lengthy post is interesting to some.
Maybe she needs to hear it. The key is to get her to ask herself questions, rather than telling. It's best done by suggestions and questions that prompts thoughts.
If you tell a hamster there is no point running so hard in the wheel, it will probably run harder.
I would like to see the effect of the meditation itself.
I'd like to see the long-term effects of a month-long meditation retreat vs. a month-long Carribean getaway, or something similar. I'm saying this as someone who appreciates meditation.
Meditation vs do whatever makes you feel the happiest, as you see fit
Why the fuck are people kicking in open doors being funded and published in what appears to be a decently respectable psychology journal?
Almost all of these studies need better ablation experiments, similar alternatives, better controls and baselines.
This is exactly the kind of bias that makes a study questionable. Is there any good literature tracking such issues, or list of studies with such problems?
I'm biased and believe in contemplation as an overall life sustaining practice.
Lovely checklist: - controlled, non-randomized - small sample size - validation by industry standard made up surveys and scales named with stupid acronyms - super terrific vague conclusion: "A 1-month Vipassana meditation retreat seems to yield improvements in mindfulness, well-being, and personality, even in experienced meditators."
Imagine all the money and effort to get this published.
Earth to researchers: eating avocado toast in 108 seconds seems to yield improvements in mindfulness, well-being, and personality.