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Ask HN: How to keep yourself accountable?

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Hi HN,

lately I realized I'm struggeling to keep myself accountable, mainly for work I am the main stakeholder in.

When working "after spec" or together with someone else on the same code, I can to stick to it and deliver quality I'm satisfied with. But as soon as I work for myself my standards, quality and even goals start going down hill. Short term I'm okay with less and sloppy work, and after a while I regrett no doing a better job.

Do you guys have ideas, techniques etc. to deal with this behaviour?

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I think this is the wrong question. I think you should find better compassion for yourself. Understand why you didn't do something the way you wanted. That's useful learning about yourself, other hackers, and the software development process on general.

Are you doing work where you don't care about it's quality? Why do the work? Some part of you didn't care about the result, or didn't believe that the additional quality would actually pay off.

That's completely normal.

Understanding which one and why is honestly far more interesting than most personal software projects.

This was exactly my thought. When I was in my twenties, starting my first company, I hammered myself every time I failed to deliver on my TODO list. Today, I'm far more introspective. If there's something that's dying on the vine, I want to know why that thing is apparently not very important to me.

Spend time figuring out what's really important and make sure your TODO list is full of those things. The unimportant stuff? Outsource it or make changes so that you don't have to have those things on your list.

Well said.

I'll add my personal bent on this -- if a project (paid or otherwise) really turns my gears, then I have to be careful not to have it turn into an all-consuming obsession. Caring about productivity and quality is "free" in a sense, because it's all I'm about.

This is why the most important criteria I have when considering taking a job isn't pay or benefits, it's whether or not I find the work itself interesting enough.

When I find myself half-assing something, it's because I'm not really interested in it. That's the time when I need to change projects/jobs, or find someone else who wants to do the parts that I clearly don't.

You might need to do some philosophical delving. If this is happening to you, then it implies that it's a task that you have told yourself is important, but that you don't really think is important.

So there's the two versions of you. The one that diagnosed it important, and the one that behaves as if it isn't.

Which is correct? There's a philosophical concept akrasia that might be worth reading about.

But for a shortcut, here's what I like to do. Get very disciplined and explicit on the Why. Ideally, every priority of yours should be traceable - through strict logic based on sufficiency and necessity - down to values that are important to you.

That explains why that split sometimes happens.

Because sometimes the You that diagnosed it important is correct, because it really is implied by a basic value of yours, and is necessary as well - but the You that behaves is wrong because the Why pathway isn't explicit enough. An example might be putting off signing up for life insurance if you have kids. If you're more explicit to yourself about the reasoning pathway, it can add more motivation to see the effort through.

And sometimes it's the opposite. The You that behaves is correct to ignore it, and the You that diagnosed it important is wrong. And this can be because your convoluted Why pathway is wrong somewhere. Perhaps a premise that originally justified its importance is no longer true, but you haven't realized all the implications yet.

For technical people in particular, it's all too easy to start amassing an unbelievably huge todo list just because of ideas that sound cool. They turn into goals "just because". Keeping yourself aligned with your own values can help you pare down your priorities.

Replace Akrasia with "you need a therapist".

In all seriousness, if you're looking to Aristotle to fix your psychological problems, you're looking in the wrong millennium.

I'm going to counter this with another anecdotal argument:

Today more people than ever are philosophers. How many people have influenced your thought while exploring the internet in past year (or 10 years)? They are not labeled as such, but I do strongly suspect that Aristotle was considered an exceptional, and eccentric maths and ethos teacher at his time, not "great thinker Aristotle".

seeking insight from older philosophy is about starting a journey towards achieving contemporary philosophical insights.

One isn't supposed to conclude that these problems were or are ever solved.

You do realize most of therapy is based on ideas from that millennium? Stoicism and Buddhism for example, among many others.

Archetypical ideas are ancient and enduring because they're fundamental

I work remotely and have recently taken on a bunch of responsibility with two non-profit orgs. And I've found my time getting crunched between everything. So, I've started detailed time tracking to make sure that I don't slip on work hours, especially since it's not 9-5.

I don't submit it to anyone, it's just for myself. And, it turned out that I wasn't slipping at all. But, the peace of mind of being able to prove it to myself was good. A nice side effect is seeing which projects or types of activities take up my time.

Other accountability things I've been doing lately is writing more comments, documentation, and focusing on writing code that is easy for others to jump into (well structured modules, one-click dev setup, automated deploys, etc). That is, even on projects for myself or where I'm likely to be the only person ever to touch it. It is good practice to get into and it does help a lot when you're coming back to something after 6 months.

What tools do you use for time/project tracking?

Activitywatch is nice

Activitywatch is open source and self-hosted, and written in Python. It's good!

There's even a Rust implementation that's being worked on, it's pretty nice. Still not as convenient as RescueTime though. Doesn't have automatic categorization for example.

I am a fan of rescuetime.com

I set up separate accounts on my machine for personal, work, sideprojects and log in to those accounts when I am working or when I want to veg out and play minecraft. Couple this with an invasive tracker like rescuetime and I can have HN and reddit blocked on my work-related user accounts.

This is really clever. It's a very robust way of introducing artificial friction to mode switching

I'm using a toy command line python app that I wrote when I was learning how to do PEG grammars.

But I've used Harvest [0] in the past when I was a contractor and I was happy with that for time tracking and invoicing.

[0] https://www.getharvest.com

I use Time Keeping Sucks (TKS), because it's a great little command line tool[0], Vim format, web UI[1] and more written by some very talented colleagues and lots of people (myself included) use it daily at work. It's built to interface with the time tracking system at work, but could probably easily be generalized to work with any similar API.

(You might find my Python stub[2] if you search for the name. It's really just a development setup based on other work, to maybe use the ideas from the original Perl implementation and hopefully involve a wider community.)

[0] https://debian.catalyst.net.nz/catalyst/dists/stable/catalys...

[1] https://github.com/grantm/tksweb

[2] https://gitlab.com/victor-engmark/tks/

Followup question: Can anyone comment on using the org-mode clock feature for something like this? I keep running into mentions of the feature in the manual, but I've never seen anyone actually using it in the wild.

I use org-mode for time tracking. I like that I can see the project I am supposed to be working on at the bottom of the screen. Helps keep me on track.

That's something I never put in word about why I like tracking. It does clear your mind of uncertainty. It also helps improving at times.

Thanks

I don't code, but every time I work on a document I share it with someone within an hour of starting it. An hour gives me plenty of time to get a framework down and to put some thoughts together, and then I make it a public (internally) shared doc and ask others for their thoughts. Knowing that people are in there helps my complete the work quicker and often gets good edits and suggestions.

I also publicly announce a time frame I'm working to - I'll have this complete by 4pm for example.

Often you need far less time than you think to do a good job of a spec or other written doc, so saying 'next week' won't improve the results and will likely just mean it drops down my priority list.

I'm in a relatively senior role, but still need these 'hacks' to get the best out of myself.

I'm in the opposite camp - for all personal projects I always want to get everything "just right and perfect", employing all the best principles etc, which ends up being so complicated that nothing gets done due to decision paralysis. At work, there's less freedom and the goals are often more clear and feasible, so things get done this way or another.

I have two thoughts.

First, I find this happens to me when I get busy. The key is doing the work "for me" before the work "for others". Wait up earlier and make my work matter.

Second, I used to get up from my desk where I met clients, and literally sit on the other side to write out what needed to change. And then I would get up and go back to the first side and get to it. That mental shift of looking the other way was very useful.

Since you seem to care what others think about your code, it’s worth considering making your code public or find someone to share your pull requests with. Someone who occasionally reviews your code. You can even pay someone to do this.

Alternatively you can set up a linter that doesn’t let you push your code until it’s properly formatted and/or well-tested.

With regards to more higher level stuff such as setting and working towards goals, I find a “mastermind” group invaluable. It’s a group of like-minded insividuals who meet up regularly (offline or online) and discuss what they are working on. Having a structure in place to make sure everyone has to share their progress or lack thereof is key.

Shameless plug: I built WIP ( https://WIP.chat ) To solve this exact problem. It’s a community + group chat of makers where we actually share our todos and the progress we make. (this makes it very different from your typical group chat)

Of course you could also set up something similar yourself with a group of friends. A weekly Skype call with Google Doc. Etc. Whatever works best for you.

Edit: typos

Making your code public -- this works.

I open-source all my code by default, and giving it to the world in good quality is a big motivator to do it well.

It also builds you a nice portfolio which is useful outside of "work for yourself".

Hey, WIP looks cool but the price is a bit steep for something I might not use after the novelty effect wears off in a week (which is the typical problem with todos/productivity apps). I understand it acts as a barrier to the worst timewasters polluting the chat, but maybe there should be some sort of ramp...? Just my £0.02.

Nice example how price anchoring can be put to practice though ($300,000). So you're saying it didn't work on you? ;)

In my experience the novelty effect of a good productivity tool doesn’t wear off that quickly. It will become an indispensable tool in your workflow.

For most members $20/mo (or $150/year) is well worth the boost in productivity and connections made. That said, if you decide it’s not for you I’d be happy to refund the $20.

Alternatively you could try https://getmakerlog.com It's free.

Whenever you work for yourself the key is to DO SOMETHING THAT YOU ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT. If you care about what you are doing, then you will hold yourself to high standards.

Another thing to think about is what part of what you are making do you actually care about. Code quality/idioms/dialects/languages? functionality? Look and feel? You might be so caught up in making a kick-ass gizmo that you completely forget to write "nice" code (for certain values of nice). THIS IS COMPLETELY OK- you are not unaccountable, you are just prioritizing.

Ages back when the CEO of the company I work for came by he talked about somebody who worked in the communications department (where they tell the company everything happening). He told us how she organized her work:

Every day she would start with a white board or piece of paper and write down everything she needed to do for that day. The next day she'd take whatevers left and start the list over. Her goal was to make sure nobody ever could say they have no idea what was happening in the company, and honestly she did a phenomenal job at it: she wrote up transcripts, shared videos and pictures as well. You just knew what was going on: some people don't like reading: there's audio / video, or they don't like video: there's a transcript.

In any regard, what I personally do is I create tickets in whatever ticketing system I'm working with be it Jira, Trac, GitHub Issues, whatever system and I write out or take the tasks / stories / issues (man devs really need to pick a darn uniform term) and write out a checklist of what I need to do even if I go back to the ticket. As I'm working and I realize something new I need to do, I write it down. I check things off, or cross them off (to make it more obvious what isn't done in longer lists) and I found this helps me when I go "what was I trying to do again?"

It sounds like you do your best work to impress others. What if you hire a code mentor to review your code every couple weeks? It’s worth $100 if it works.

I make public commitments that would be hard or damaging to myself to get out of. Basically committing to a deadline with real consequences.

(Example if I am interested in a side project, I promise to speak at a local meetup about my work)

I tried doing that once. My stress level went through the roof. Does the same thing happen to you? If so, how do you deal with it?

I once presented with softwaredoug before a room of 400 people on a project that we didn't quite get finished! Yes... massive amounts of stress as we approached the deadline and realized that we were not going to hit it. Nevertheless, b/c of the stress we pushed harder than we normally would have, we learned a lot more than we otherwise would have, and _despite_ not finishing, the talk was one of the better received of my career. (We turned it into a lessons learned talk. We had plenty of great questions.)

How did we deal with the stress? I think we just sat with it. It was always there. Over time you recognize it for what it is, an illusion. That doesn't make it feel much better, but it gives you a bit more control and equanimity. And being able to push through hard situations despite the illusory feelings of dread opens the doors for doing some really interesting things.

It's somewhat mitigated by the fact that Meetup talks are informal, and in general people like hearing what worked/what didn't work - not perfection. People are generally nice at meetups, especially towards side projects. Of course I'd prefer to show something amazing, but sometimes that doesn't work out :)

Oh hey! And you remember that time we wrote a book about a technology we were unfamiliar with? Shame driven development in action right there!

One thing I've always wanted to do (and hopefully will) is to hire one of those cheap online assistants that can handle generic tasks for you, and both streamline what I have to do, and use them to keep me accountable.

Having someone confirm whether you've done certain things as their job seems like something that will help me, and even if it doesn't fully help they can reduce the amount of work I need to do to start on something which is helpful on its own.

I'd be curious to hear if anyone here is doing something like this?

This idea is intriguing. How much is "cheap" and do you have any recommended providers?

You can find some online workers here: https://www.onlinejobs.ph/jobseekers/jobsearch/category/offi... I've used some of the them for data entry, their price is really cheap. You can get some for as low as $2 - $5/hour, depending on what you need.

This feels very exploitative.

Is all your clothing made solely in US?

Bangladesh minimum wage for garment workers (1000+ of whom died when a poorly maintained building collapsed) is 95 dollars per month.

Does this make it not exploitative?

Good point, better to keep exploiting than be a hypocrite!

You are not exploiting the person making the garments, you are exploiting the fact that the cost of living in Bangladesh is far below the cost of living in a Western nation.

The fact that the standard of living in Bangladesh is also lower does not mean that you are exploiting the worker. In fact, in many cases (especially employing them directly online as the GP is suggesting) you are helping to improve their standard of living.

And that makes this less exploitative, how, exactly?

Whataboutism is not useful.

Maybe they are just trying to provoke some thought. They did not make any grand claims regarding levels of exploitation... Not sure why there is always someone trying to get ahead of drama and signal how woke they are despite there being no drama at all.

While I don't entirely disagree I have friends who work for < $5/hr (Eastern Europe) who would love to have the option to do this instead.

I also have friends who work for only slightly more on Upwork projects who would hate it if those jobs disappear under the premise that 'they are getting exploited'.

I'm not going to say this isn't exploitative to some degree, but I will say that this is similar to sweatshop conditions: potentially an improvement over what they were previously doing. It's hard to jump from sustenance farming to a large income.

I highly recommend you take a trip to the Philippines. Go out to some of the villages. There are young children starving. That $2-$5 is huge for them. College graduates work in department stores because there are not enough jobs.

Tim Ferris has an entire chapter on this in The Four Hour Work Week.

It's very possible this is where I've gotten the idea from and simply forgotten - thanks.

Write yourself a spec.

Even better, follow the full process

1) Problem Identification

2) Requirements Capture

2a) Technology selection (optional)

3) Specification

4) verification and validation

Maybe you do some TDD and mix it up on 3 and 4, but this is the minimum process to meet an intent for a v-model, call it a shallow v.

Try and maintain at least minimum traceability thru the stages, but can easily fit each on a tab on a spreadsheet and link cells across the phases.

Once you get a few done, they are really very little work compared to the benefits yielded.

If you can't articulate what you need, want, how to do and how to check, even if only one stage in advance as you go, then you probably aren't ready to start.

Sometimes it might be instructive to write one to throw away if you aren't sure how it might best pan out, then make the plan for the actual thing.

I struggle with this typically, but now have a loved one with a very serious medical condition that I need to help out regularly and everything has basically gone to hell at work. I've lost all semblance of strategic thinking and what I used to encourage as open feedback from my team now rings like overly entitled whining. It's a mess.

I can absolutely relate, but sadly have no advice, only sympathy to offer.

Thanks...I know there are lots of folks dealing with worse, at least i'm fortunate to have a good paying job with a compassionate employer to worry about. But it's still not always clear how to prioritize and when it's appropriate to start making decisions to reduce responsibilities and impact of away time.

If I understand your question correctly, then you are looking for ways to hold yourself accountable when doing work for which you are the main stakeholder. Does this mean a side project outside of what you do for a living or does this mean when working solo at your job? If it's the former, then you have at least two options: see the work through or quit and find something that excites you enough to follow the task through to fruition. If it's something that that you are working on solo for your paying job, then perhaps consider keeping to a schedule, asking colleagues that you respect to review your work, and to taking some time at the end of the day to identify why working by yourself produces the observed results. Does some rational (or irrational) belief lead to a dip in quality and goals?

I’ve seen tremendous improvement in my productivity lately simply by documenting everything I do in a spreadsheet.

Any interval of time with a discrete task, even if it’s answering emails, I note and occasionally provide supplemental information.

I’ve noticed that it’s helped most with clearing through lots of small tasks, because when I record my start and stop times, I feel less inclined to let “answered an email” take any more than a few minutes.

I still don’t have a productivity boosting solution for big complex projects with lots of research, except “lots of coffee.”

When you are working for someone, or with someone else, you have their voice as authority, or as someone you are helping. Find what motivates you. This is similar to going to the gym yourself versus going with a personal trainer.

What are your expectations? What would go good or bad if you do or do not succeed?

How much do you really regret, what aspect of it do you regret the most? Identify one specific problem and seek to improve that specifically. Once you are good at that little thing, pick the next one.

I like to log everything I do in a log file. I use OneNote for this as it is very easy to create checkbox lists.

I start the day by creating a new day title with the date and then add empty checkbox items for the things I want to get done, then I move over stuff from the previous day that I did not get around to yesterday.

And I also have a list at the bottom for stuff I need to do eventually but is not a priority, I review this list every morning as well.

I've done quite a few different things, none of which worked for me 100%. Trello boards, Asana, GitHub Issues, etc...

I have recently found success in working backwards to determine why things aren't getting addressed. I'm using Clockify [https://clockify.me/] to track time spent on tasks. My flow is to stop the timer when I switch tasks, and start a new entry.

My job has a high amount of interruptions, which causes quite a bit of context switching. Not the most productive situation when working on long form tasks.

I've found that keeping an inventory of these interruptions helps me to determine what my stakeholders might need assistance with through utilities or fixes. It also keeps me semi-accountable in relation to how much of my day is being used appropriately.

But, I think the long and short of it is, keeping yourself accountable starts with being honest about where your time is being spent.

I think you almost hit the problem on the head but are slightly off mark. I believe you are close with, "But as soon as I work for myself..." But I question whether or not you are actually "working for yourself".

Is this code you're writing for yourself a product that is intended to become a full-time endeavor? If yes, then it makes sense that you'd find yourself frustrated, and it is likely that the quality isn't actually the problem. It's a frustration with not having the bandwidth to work on your own project 100% of your time. You're not financially independent and recognize that you don't have the time to actually deliver the quality and content you'd like to. It is a sense of futility working on something during odd hours that you'd rather spend decompressing from having to deliver quality all day long at a paying job.

But as soon as I work for myself my standards, quality and even goals start going down hill.

What does that even mean?

Are you talking about an entirely private project on your home PC that no one but you will ever see? Then it's a hobby and you can make it as good or half assed as you feel like.

Or is this open source? If so, then decide what your goals are or your reasons for doing it.

Most people don't appreciate free stuff and people who work for free often resent the way they get treated for idealistically providing high quality stuff completely for free. You don't owe "your best" to random strangers who won't appreciate it. If you are resenting that or feeling burned out or something, take a break, re-assess your reasons for doing it and decide whether to quit, lower your expectations, scale back your involvement, or whatever.

To get the work done at all - https://www.focusmate.com/

The expectation of a stranger for you to show up and work is powerful and effective.

To make sure it's high quality, pay for code review - https://www.codementor.io/

The expectation that someone with minimal competence will be looking at your code is powerful and effective. Note: You don't even need a super experienced person (read expensive) you can get 90% of the motivation from even a junior reviewer.

Build the cost of these into your pricing structure.

Aside: I'm still looking for on demand project management for 1 or 2 weekly 30 minute sessions to track progress since I hate (and thus don't do) this overhead work.

I've been following the below steps for about an year now:

1. Go through my agenda for the next day every evening and commit to no more than 3 categories of tasks multiple, unplanned context switches don't work for me)

2. Try to religiously track my time. Easy to do for planned items but still struggling with tracking unproductive time. But within a couple of weeks, you start to see patterns even with such vague notes as (1230-1430: YouTube, etc)

3. Review your weekly / fortnightly patterns every Saturday. Takes no more than 30 mins a week to reflect on the well gone by and come up with one change to try the next week.

Orgmode has been a huge help with tracking the time and it ties in my workflow. And of course, the overall process itself keeps evolving, as it should.

For getting a grasp on what your unproductive time, I'd like to recommend RescueTime.

Fundamentally, it is tracking software, and I know some folks won't like that.

It works by measuring time spent between programs via desktop client, and when you're using the browser an optional browser extension subdivides its time by which webpage you have active. It then groups all this info up into categories and measures your "productive" vs. "unproductive" time.

I used it for many years when I did freelancing work, and found it to be exceptionally high quality.

I'm in the same boat: my standards for myself are way lower than when I work for other people.

I think self-discipline doesn't cut it. What you need is commitment devices: put yourself in a situation where it's harder/more costly to not do the work rather than do it. Have the environment do the motivation work for you, "tie yourself to the mast"

For example: time tracking, deadline for a public speech, deadline for a demo day, going to a dedicated room where only work is allowed, working with other people (even if they don't work on the same stuff as you), developing a good routine/habits. Keeping a log of progress/failures is good too.

It's hard stuff

Respectfully, different things work for different people. Motivation is fleeting and can be easily derailed, but self discipline is a monster that doesn't quit.

Philosophically, self discipline is self love. What is misaligned that causes the person to let themselves down?

Sign your code.

Doing this attaches your reputation to your code. Anybody reading it knows to expect a certain level of quality given it is written by you, and you get the much needed motivation to write good code.

Amazing piece of advice I picked from the Pragmatic Programmer.

This is an incredible advice - from my experience I know it works, though I never formulated it this way (or even thought about this). Thank you for spelling it out!

Well that's what version control does, so if you remind yourself that when someone does a git blame later, and they see who wrote the awful code and dread your existence, you might want to fix it up.

I'd recommend reading The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. For me, creating habits and using a paper todo list have made a big impact on me. That said, i think everyone occasionally feels that they are slacking performing less than they could do. I also wrote a bit about what works for me in my blog post A Decade of Remote Work [1].

[1] http://blog.viktorpetersson.com/remote-work/2019/05/18/a-dec...

Now Thyself

The first thing you have to do is to identify what is the real problem.

I don't know you, most of the people here do not know you personally so even if someone here is an expert on human behavior and productivity, is is way easier to identify the real problem if you are face to face with an expert.

Odds are that the problem(usually they are several problems) that you have is different to what you see as a problem(the consequence of the real problem).

This expert will read your body language, your voice nuances, your attitude much better than through plain text. This person could ask you about your life habits, that are super important(do you sleep , eat well, exercise, make love with your partner? Do you play and enjoy life?) and tell you what to do.

You probably are doing several things wrong, like working too much, not exercising, isolating yourself, judging yourself too harshly.

Over this you will probably feel anxiety that makes you procrastinate and do no work at all.

It takes a lot of reading, watching videos and practice over years in order to master productivity on your own. Just raw ideas and techniques are not enough, you need to whatch them in action, being applied to really understand. Specially watching masters.

And most important, you need to apply those techniques in your life, not just understand them. A mentor would be your external feedback if you apply the techniques or not.

Would you learn judo reading blogs? Or books? That would help, but a master will skyrocket your learning.

There are programs like "wake up productive"(from Eben Pagan) that you can watch as videos. There are torrents of it if you just want to know what is all about before buying.

A good psychologist could also help you a lot with any issues that you have while working on your own.

There are experts in programming that know the best techniques. Just ask them, make them your mentors if you can.

There are experts in human behavior. Ask them or make them your mentors.

There are experts in productivity...

Find people that are in the same place that you are, a support group. You can create it if it does not exist.

You clearly can't trust yourself.

Put someone else in charge of ensuring quality and make sure they've got the ability to spot when you're not delivering and the authority to bust your chops for it.

In my place, this is often referred to as "QA". He makes sure requirements are identified, tests are agreed and suitable, processes followed, design and code reviews done properly, code source controlled correctly, builds done properly, automated test suites are good, all that sort of thing.

This might sound like a strange advice, but i have had you problem and found a way of being in my advice that has helped me in practicing to have high standard even in my own work.

It all started with reading the book called “The anatomy of peace”, and then reading the two other books from the same author, this helped me a lot and I then went all-in and took their coaching education, and now i am much less stuck and helping others get unstuck at the same time :)

I tend to write stories on a board the same as I do at work (actually better than work). I have estimated hours, etc.

Then I pull them into programs as I go, document throughly, and close.

This helps me later work through my progress, but has also helped me onboard people to help on my side projects. If you think you’ll be adding people, it’s good to just develop with the same rigor as work. It’ll help you improve and keeping yourself accountable

Find your support network.

You know that you work well with other people, so find ways for other people to help you be accountable.

Sign your code.

Every piece of code you work on should be signed by you. Your reputation gets attached to your work, fear of what your impression will be on someone reading sloppy code written by you should be motivation enough to write good code.

This is just one of the many useful tips I learned from the Pragmatic Programmer.

Have someone else – who is on your side – hold you accountable (a friend or family member). It's hard not to fall into the trap of chasing perfection when you're the only stakeholder, especially when you're also the creator.

I use https://crushentropy.com to plan my day and to keep track of how the day is going compared to the plan. It helps me be more mindful of my time.

Ever seen the movie Cast Away? Find yourself a Wilson.

Or real people. Ha!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rubber_duck_debugging

A rubber duck can do it too.

Makes me think about Clippy, the Office paperclip

Wasn't there recently a link posted on HN to a service to help developers(maybe anyone) stay accountable with their projects? Perhaps someone can help me out here, as I can't find it.

https://bossasaservice.life/ comes to mind.

I used this and really liked it while remotely contracting, but it wasn't as helpful for me while working on a team in an office. I find accountability is easier when I'm in more of a leadership role and I have a team to support.

With remote contracting though, ugh. So many small tasks come up, unclear direction, often very few people to work with, plenty of isolation. The person or people you're helping often don't know how to manage projects, but the impermanence of the project makes it unappealing to step in. Accountability gets difficult at times. Things like this can be helpful... It kind of became a game for me to stay on track and work with the 'boss'.

some ideas:

Clearly, there is some difference in how your emotional arousal works to motivate you in working with someone else vs doing your own work.

Look into doing some introspection and try to uncover and compare the difference in core belief/subconscious commitments you work with others vs for your self

check out the link if what I said interests you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3HoE_PKlanc&

Had a similar problem, but just do what works for you, i.e. work with other people and be transparent and public about your deadlines/milestones.

Remove the safety nets from you life. You work like you do because you have the privilege to do so. Get rid of what's holding you back.

When I did remote work I had a similar issue, and still have it with my own projects. The way I overcome the self-lag is to compartmentalize - I have an internal boss hat / worker hat. When I think about goals, timelines, progress etc. and set those goals I don't think in terms of "I want to / need to", but "My $boss would want /need..." and think of bosses that I respected and did good work for.

tl:dr; I get myself into the headspace that I'm working for someone else to overcome my own ability to undervalue my own projects.

Great hack. I need to try this. I used to use the self audit approach where I'd critically review my own work as a boss on a weekly sit down. What's funny is it allows you to be empathetic to yourself. Kind of counter intuitive

If you are realizing now that you are doing it - you can see this at any time and adjust accordingly.

See focusmate.com, I’ve been using it a lot. Video conference with accountability partners

Its okay it happens. You can compete with yourself on what you created in the past.

Maybe you are motivated by fear of failure/rejection?

Just accept the tradeoffs and have fun either way.

treat yourself like you would treat others?

You have to be a bit of a manger for yourself and be ruthlessly critical. Ask your self about the end results. Ask yourself what are the current obstructions. Ask yourself about the pros and cons and costs. Ask yourself if you are just fooling around or getting work done.

Happiness is the only purpose of our existence. Please be nice to yourself.

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