> It's the equivalent of asking "why was that young girl out alone so late at night anyway?" when discussing a sexual assault case.
No. That's actually very different, I struggle to see any parallel.
> What you're doing is being deliberately vague to get away with blaming/accusing someone of something you wouldn't be able to get away with accusing them of directly.
Of course not. I'm deliberately using words that leave wiggle room, but not for the reasons you think. I believe in processes, not essences, I might sloppily say "Stallman is a misogynist", but I mean "Stallman's actions are misogynistic".
In a similar way, when trying to describe someone else's perspective I would not use absolute language. I can't presume to completely understand another person's experience. In order to be inclusive, I relay my general understanding with language that deliberately doesn't make hard borders for inclusion or exclusion.
Specifically, you suggest fixes to my language that change my meaning:
>> ...encounter a whole bunch of people (women) who feel the misogynistic air around him actively drove them away from engaging in fsf style open source.
> You don't say "Stallman is a misogynist" or "Stallman drove women away from contributing to fsf…"
I specifically didn't mean Stallman exactly, but him in the center of actions/reactions and whoever supports his ways (in mailing lists, meetups etc), hence "misogynistic air around…" (as earlier stated, I don't believe anyone IS anything). I also didn't mean contributing to the FSF only, but that this air around him has affected GNU and related software.
I try to use precise language, but you seem to argue I should reduce my views down to absolutes, which is not how I think about anything.