Comment by TamDenholm | Hacker News Reader

Comment by TamDenholm | Hacker News Reader

Right now no, the last couple weeks is where everything in my life is going down the shitter. I'm trying to just get on with it cuz my stoic nature just tells me I'll get through it eventually.

I'm in substantial debt for me but at the rate in which I earn I can pull myself out of it within 6 months, but I've been working on launching new companies and it's been a struggle. My 2 cofounders are waiting for me to finish my part of the process so they can go sell, I'm almost there. The property I was renovating has taken way longer than it should have but it's almost done. My car got seized by the police because I wasn't aware it was uninsured, taken all day to sort that and I'm not done yet. Clients are not paying invoices, I'm having to manage a number of other things at the same time, and the charity I run with my other half might be getting sued.

I need to find some work soon and bring in some money. So if anyone wants a remote php/js dev let me know. I know I've got a lot of things I'm dealing with but basically all of them are 90% there so life will simplify soon.

I'm really sorry for what you're going through. At the risk of sounding trite, I'd like to share with you two things I've found helpful on these much-worse-then-usual times of life.

First, I take comfort in knowing that the cumulative crappiness is sometimes just an unfortunately coincidental timing of multiple, crappy problems. And I know such coincidences will happen time to time. So that comforts me in knowing that it's not part of some long-term, downward trajectory in my life.

I'm almost too embarrassed to share this second one, but it really helps me so I will. When crappy times like you're having happen to me, sometimes the song "Mama Said" by The Shirelles [0] goes through my head. It always brings a little levity and perspective to my mood :)

[0] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L842mz-tNBQ

Thanks for the words, and the song, haha. Yeah i'm aware that the issue is i'm juggling a million things right now and if i was only dealing with one at a time then any problems that come up would be trivial to deal with, but its just the nature of a minor thing going wrong on multile things all at the same time. None of these things i'm dealing with are unsurmountable if they're compartmentalised into 1 thing at a time, but when they're all at once, i get stressed.

I've just gotta keep going, stop anything new coming onto my plate (within my control anyway) and just deal with these things one at a time until the list gets shorter and shorter and i feel better. Its gunna take some time though.

Dude, sounds like you're spreading yourself too thin. Trying to launch multiple (two?) companies at the same time, plus renovating, plus running a charity, plus working with clients... When do you sleep?

My unsolicited advice is to say no more often - if an opportunity comes along but you're already overworked, you might need to pass on it.

Yep, i'm actually painfully aware that that is my problem, the issue is that my natural brain is to be a problem solver and I say yes by default to most things, but i am trying to shut down the amount of streams of things that i'm dealing with but i need to finish them rather than abandon them. I'm 1-2 weeks away from not having to worry about 2 streams of things and then i can shut down the other things as i go on. Its just a stressful time.

There are a lot of PHP/JS jobs in Toronto. Mostly working with WordPress. It's not in my sphere so I can't point you in any specific directions but if you're anywhere near there it's worth a look. Some do office/remote and some do fully remote AFAIK.

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