And you do also have on the other hand a trove of information and knowledge bank which they can rely on.
How and what and when at what age would you do it?
General rules:
- Tech use (and media for that matter) is all on a "ask permission" basis. Often it's a reward too, but it doesn't have to be. Basically they can't just grab it when they want.
- Generally, my rule is that all tech use is supervised. All usage is in the living room / kitchen area with an adult present who can monitor them.
There are some exceptions to "unsupervised use" like my 9 year old and his 2DS where there is limited amount of trouble he can get into. On a long car ride he can sit in the back and use that as he wishes. Same goes with the Nintendo Switch (he can't access the store).
Things I've forbidden:
- No unsupervised use of media or tech, with the few exceptions mentioned.
- YouTube kids. I tried it and at the time there was NO "white listed only" option so basically they had full run of YouTube kids and I quickly found I did not like that. Tons of inane content and even content you "blocked" was still available in slightly different forms. It was absolutely FLOODED with videos that were just pushing merch. It was like video dystopia ... for kids.
- No use of apps or media I haven't reviewed to some extent first.
Things I like:
- Anything from PBS.
Things I do that i'm not always proud of:
- At a restaurant give a wiggly kid the phone and an app to play with (still supervised), sometimes you're just too tired to entertain and need some quiet.
- While I'm doing some work turn on the TV and run a show for them... sometimes you do what you gotta do to stay sane / get other things done.
At our house the phones are off limits for them. Very limited screen time (1-2 videos or the same old David Attenborough movie 'till dinner is ready) and there is an agreement between us and the kids that they can start computer/phone usage when they learn to read and write.
Lead by examples by not looking at your phone every 5 second, and use the computer for active activities.
Once they are old enough to understand why something can be good or bad for them (idk, 10 years old?) regardless of whether or not it is enjoyable, you can give them a bit more control, while still being involved. Do they like a specific youtuber? Ask them why, watch some videos with them. Keep controlling the time spent though.
This is what I would like to do in the future. I am currently childless so this comment is purely based on what I want to do and not on active experience. Can be food for thoughts though.
On the flip side, some districts are still living in the 70s, and their tech classes are little more than typing classes. In those cases, you do need to teach them yourselves.
And many districts are somewhere in the middle. But I'd suggest figuring out what they'll be learning outside of the home, and just fill in gaps at home.