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If I look at who I know that is still using fb it is almost exclusively older people. I'm 33 and deleted my fb account, almost every person I know younger than me either did the same or was never on in the first place.

I see this being huge for older adults who are divorced or widowed, those are the people still using fb and I think would be happy to use this service.

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Counter-anecdote: I'm 30 and have yet to meet someone in my dating/friend range (20-35) that never had Facebook here in Mexico or home in Austin.

I'd be curious if you're socializing in some sort of anti-FB bubble or actually have a sample size of like 5 people when you consider the people you actually know this info about.

Willing to date 10 years younger, but only 5 years higher.

Interesting.

Controversial in 2019, but youth is a perk if I get to choose with an "age range" slider. Also, women 35+ are usually on a different clock than I am.

I'm happy to share more insight as a man dating at 30 if you want, but just ask.

This is veering wildly off topic but I'm curious: don't you think people in their early 20's would also be on a wildly "different clock"? I'm only slightly older than you are and through a weird series of event ended up frequenting a WhatsApp group populated mainly by people in their early 20s and the culture shock is pretty large.

People in their early 20's are generally students, they have different priorities, lower incomes, different cultural differences etc... It seems easier to find 40yo who share my interests and my lifestyle in my experience.

The "different clock" hombre_fatal is referring to is the "biological clock" - A single childless woman aged 35 who wants a family with two or three children has very little time to waste (assuming she wants a traditional two-biological-parent family structure which is extremely common among members of the upper middle class).

They need someone ready to make a lifetime commitment - and as it's rare to marry without dating for at least a year or so, they've only got a few rolls of the dice left.

If that's not where hombre_fatal is in his life, such women won't see a future with him.

Your clock as a guy actually isn't as different as you might think compared to women.

Yes, biologically speaking, having kids later in life is more doable for men than women. But you don't really want to put it off much. Kids require a lot of energy, and you want to be around for them growing up and moving out. And hopefully having their own children.

Don't be thinking you have all the time in the world!

It's not an unusual tendency for women to prefer men older than them, and men to prefer women younger than them. So these preferences can match up to a mutually preferable arrangement for both parties.

Also, FWIW, parent said "friend/dating" range. Which potentially means 20-35 may not fully apply to both categories.

At least he's willing to go 5 years older: https://theblog.okcupid.com/the-case-for-an-older-woman-99d8...

I'm 25. I use Facebook. I've noticed many of the people younger than me don't use it at all and many of the people around my age do have accounts but rarely actually use it.

I agree with you. I'm in my 20s, and I know a lot of people who still use Facebook -- Although my little sister may have something different to say (she's 17).

23 here, my age exactly tends to be mostly but few actively use it. Even just 2 years younger and it drops a ton. I only myself use it for 2 meme groups. The only people I even talk to on messenger are one friend, my grandma, and the random person who doesn't have my number.

Regarding Facebook bubble, an anecdote:

29 here, I have Facebook and use it almost exclusively for responding to events organised by my girlfriend’s friends. She and her friends use it constantly for group activities.

If I don’t respond to an event I’m not going to they’ll text her to text me because if I don’t respond on FB I might as well be dead??

Within my circle of friends we organise ourselves via text message and I don’t think any of them use Facebook on the regular. As far as I know nobody has deleted their account due to some sort of privacy sentiment. They just don’t use it.

> I see this being huge for older adults who are divorced or widowed

Go to Facebook Marketplace and search for wedding dresses. It'll show you recently divorced females in your area. From there you can filter by size.

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I do landscape photography. When I post a photo on IG, I'll get hundreds of 'likes', and they're largely the young, under 30 crowd.

When I post a photo to Facebook, the 'likes' seem to come almost entirely from over 40 crowd. Lots of retirees.

Young people still have Instagram, so I guess Instadate would have been better :)

don't forget a huge part of their user base is in developing countries. How dating plays into that is going to be interesting.

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