Marriage is a wonderful institution and the children that come from it are the greatest gift you can be given.
Our culture tells us the opposite. But our culture is insane and wants you to be an isolated, rootless, consumer wage slave.
Our culture tells us the opposite. But our culture is insane and wants you to be an isolated, rootless, consumer wage slave.
Historically, most humans did not marry and were engaged in collective child-rearing, rather than foisting the responsibility on a single pair of parents that were either biologically or legally bound to a child. These practices only emerged with the agricultural revolution. I think it's easy to imagine that children would have a far more enriching experience of growing up if they were cared for by a larger group of people with a wider range of age, experience, skills, etc. Not to mention that it would help with the problems of children growing up in "broken" or single-parent households, where they may experience poor or insufficient care and attention due to economic hardship or parental absence.
This is true only if the finances are there to support it and both people really want it. In which case any "institution" can be considered wonderful and the fruit of it a "gift."
Most people can't get out of the consumer wage slave trap, it's their only opportunity or the only one they know about or can use to try to be in a better economic situation.
Children strain things and make things less happy between the mom and dad in a lot of marriages unless there's enough money.
They had to stay together because they couldn't afford to live without the other. They were already in a small ass apartment, they didn't have assets to liquidate. They were slaves to each other because they needed the money.
Unfortunately some of my close friends are stuck in a similar situation. Luckily they like each other more than the case above and have pretty much always struggled financially. But it's clear they need each others income to survive, and they just had a kid. Hoping they can maintain the love.
LOL! You can keep 'em.
I'm happy it works for you, but it's not for everybody.
See also: Jihad vs. McWorld by Barber, it is essentially a discussion of that phenomenon. Forcing everyone into a consumer role is liberating in some ways if you're someone who never had those rights (dalits in India, housewives in the West), but now you're just another wage slave competing against everyone else for their slice of the profits.
Perhaps this is true for you personally. How do you know that this an "universal truth".
I don't think simply being married equates to happiness though. The institution is probably irrelevant when held up to the quality of the actual relationship.
And congratulations.
But you are not a useless worm and this is not a piece of dust.