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Yet, if you watched any porn these days, the males are always agressive and the females almost always take the submissive role. The advent of "gonzo" porn hasn't helped matters.

This material is training a generation, from puberty, how to act sexually.

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> Yet, if you watched any porn these days, the males are always agressive and the females almost always take the submissive role.

There is tons of male submissive porn. Google "femdom", "mistress porn", and so on.

There are several genres, including male-sub BDSM, cuckolding, tease and denial, and so on.

People sexualize everything, so saying "there's no {x} porn" is false for almost all values of x. (Google "balloon porn" and "clown porn" for examples.)

> There is tons of male submissive porn. Google "femdom", "mistress porn", and so on.

Especially Japanese.

> People sexualize everything, so saying "there's no {x} porn" is false for almost all values of x. (Google "balloon porn" and "clown porn" for examples.)

True, there's even Lego porn.

The males are usually aggressive because in general both women and men are turned off by the presence of weak men. Related: The actors are almost never horribly disfigured.

Yes, you hit on the edge of my complaint about this article, and a lot of the feminist writing I've seen.

This article was just a long laundry list of complaints about the way things are without any attempt to suggest a better alternative, or even any questionings about why things are the way they are.

Also, I never trust anything written about sex that isn't personal or intimate. What does the author like? What does she think would be better? Is this all conjecture?

To make this real, she would have had to get her hands and mind dirty, and that is one thing complainers hate to do.

Just as Call of Duty and other violent games are teaching a generation to act violently?

Yes, if the player happens to be called to war and has to engage in battle. They are being shown what to expect, including the points where CoD doesn't simulate real life war situations.

By my original point the watching of modern porn has trained young men to expect 100% willing partners, shaved body parts, intense libidos, and guaranteed orgasms with little to no reciprocity. That's going to lead to a lot of failed sexual relationships.

Actually, I think most people are able to realize that games don't portray reality.

So do they think the same thing about internet porn?

I don't know, but if I had to hazard a guess I'd say yes, based on the same general idea: if someone is smart enough to figure out that the (most) scenarios depicted in computer games are fantasy [1], I don't see any reason for her to not think the same about porn, science fiction, painting, poetry..

[1] Of course, art often draws its themes from life and experience - sometimes exaggerated, others downplayed. Whether any of those themes depict the norm, I'm not able to say.

It does not mesh well with how I would act in the real world.

"This material is training a generation, from puberty, how to act sexually."

Exactly so, and that isn't a good thing at all.

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