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I can't be the only one thinking that treating dating as some kind of MMORPG you have to grind through is somewhat, I don't know, creepy? And the comments aren't exactly reassuring. It's all about response rate, market value, percentiles, figures, and so on. Skimming through this thread you could think people are talking about the stock market and not actual human beings.

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It doesn't mean they're this robotic when actually meeting and talking to the women. It's just a principled and organized approach to the whole thing.

Note that your type of criticism applies to many facets of life, for example medicine. They are sick human beings with their hopes and dreams, so why all the talk about blood pressure numbers and iron levels and Latin words, talk about chemical compounds, et. It's a cold heartless approach these doctors are having, as it may appear.

The thing is, many people don't have the luxury of ignoring these things. Unless they follow a principled approach where they reflect on what works and doesn't and adjust their approach, they won't get anywhere.

I used to be off-put by that too, but then I realized online dating isn't "dating". It's like you going to a supermarket to source the ingredients for a good meal you are making. The real deal is making the meal, not how/where you got the ingredients.

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