I don't think we are at odds with what you are saying. I'm 45 minutes through Tim Walters' video and there is absolutely nothing new for me so far. I suspect I'll get to the end and there will still be nothing new for me because I'm starting in the same place he is.
As for your example, I totally agree! Forcing you to log in to a social network to send a package is crazy. I order cheese making supplies on the internet because I have no other way to buy them. Not a single supplier of cheese making supplies even offers to make me log into a social network.
You're making the statement that all sites are blatantly disregarding the GDPR and I think it's because you just don't pay attention to the sites that aren't.
I'll give you an example (which is is cheese making again). I wanted to check the shipping costs for cheesemaking.com. I don't like the fact that they make me fill out all of their order forms before they tell me the shipping cost, but they do. They have a newsletter which they use to do their marketing, but for now I've not signed up for it. When I didn't complete the process, they sent me an email. They asked if something went wrong and said they will hold my order for 48 hours. After that, they will delete all of my information.
And these guys aren't even in the EU (and neither am I, although I work on contract for a company that is). This kind of behaviour is exactly what I expect and I think it is completely in line with the directives. The only thing they were missing is telling me under which lawful basis they were operating in each case.
Is it contract basis? Keep in mind that as far as I can tell, "contract basis" does not actually require a contract to be in place (i.e. you don't have to have consideration), so I think there is an argument for saying that since I contacted them and started to initiate a purchase, following up on why I didn't finish (for a limited time period) is within the directive.
Even if it weren't, it is almost definitely within legitimate interest. To really qualify for that, they would have to offer to let be object, but since they will delete my data after 48 hours I think they are following the spirit of the directive (because you only have to respond within 1 month).
I don't know. I think the reason you keep getting down voted is because you seem to be focussed on something that is different than what everyone else is talking about. It's absolutely true that there are a lot of companies who don't give a flying monkey's about GDPR. But it is untrue that there isn't anyone. The rest is details and as Tim Walters is at pain to explain the GDPR specifically is not prescriptive because they want you to follow the principles not a check list of rules.