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Uh, I disagree, like a lot.
Porn does a lot of nice things:
- it does some form of sex education when parents/school/society does none
- it lets people realize what sex is about (think about amateur categories and how you can see people not that different from you having sex and realizing that different shapes and sizes, all work)
- it lets you explore your own sexuality (could you have immagine you would have liked that kind of things?)
- it lets you explore sexuality with your own partner (people get bored of the same sex every time, you know?)
And so much more.
Of course as with many other things (alchool, for example) you should not get too much of it.. But I disagree completely with the statement that "porn is bad in any amount".
> it does some form of sex education when parents/school/society does none
Education? Porn is "education?" Porn is to sex education as war movies are to combat training.
> it lets people realize what sex is about (think about amateur categories and how you can see people not that different from you having sex and realizing that different shapes and sizes, all work)
If I learn what "sex is about" through porn, then I haven't yet learned that sex can be intimate, or that it can result in babies.
> it lets you explore your own sexuality (could you have immagine you would have liked that kind of things?)
It seems limiting to "explore your sexuality" in the novelty of visual and auditory stimulation. Sort of one dimensional. What about touching, smells, or interaction with another person?
> it lets you explore sexuality with your own partner (people get bored of the same sex every time, you know?)
That seems like a two-way conversation (between you and your partner) becoming a three-way conversation where you include the ideas of the porn industry.
> If I learn what "sex is about" through porn [...]
> It seems limiting to "explore your sexuality" in the novelty of visual and auditory stimulation [...]
These arguments are all against the fictional nature of porn as a substitute for sex or sex education... which no one is suggesting, so it's a straw-man. Porn is not a replacement, it is both less and more, just like other fictions. The only time the OP suggested it as a replacement is where there is no alternative, which is perfectly reasonable.
War films are not a substitute for combat training because they are not supposed to be. The remainder of this argument is for the value of fiction, which seems a little unnecessary.
Thank you, you got my point.
> War films are not a substitute for combat training because they are not supposed to be. The remainder of this argument is for the value of fiction, which seems a little unnecessary.
War movies can depict war as something awesome as well as something awful. Needless to say, there are movies that depict war the former way and movies that depict war in the latter way.
The very same way, there are many kinds ("genres") of porn that illustrate sexuality in many ways.
If you could give me a link to an answer, I would appreciate it.
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Not exactly what I was looking for. I was interested in ethical arguments. Thank you though.> Porn is to sex education as war movies are to combat training.
Right, but the options aren't only "war movie" or "real combat training". For some folks the options are porn or a vacuum of information. You can find plenty of regular, non-porn-actor folks having regular sex online. Are you saying this can't be valuable, especially when someone knows next to nothing about sex?
To use your metaphor: as a young and untrained person, would you rather be dropped in the middle of a battlefield with no explanation, or would you rather have watched some videos of real combat first?
Of course you can find good-old-fashioned amateur porn out there. It might even be useful! But, as you said, in a vacuum: It's now your mental model.
Bob and Alice uploaded a porn video where Alice is on top, and now Chuck just knows that's how sex works.
It wouldn't be so bad if Chuck went through the next few years of life thinking that. One day, he'll meet a girl and learn that sometimes the man is on top.
But: You know what's out there on the front page of the most popular porn sites. Pornhub. Xhamster. Not exactly wholesome amateur love making.
But this comment only shows one case where someone gets an only partially informed idea and takes it the wrong way (and only watches one video?). It doesn't address any of the other cases where it is helpful.
Also: many of us enjoy more than "wholesome" love making, and porn can be a way of discovering things you never would have realized you enjoyed.
I am interested though to hear what marines would say about the recruits that come in having played video games or watched movies with gunplay. Is it a good thing? Does it leave them with messed up ideas or expectations?
The video they link to at the end of the test the top of the description contains the following:-
> NOTE FROM TED: This talk contains several assertions that are not supported by academically respected studies in medicine and psychology. While some viewers might find advice provided in this talk to be helpful, please do not look to this talk for medical advice.
It also contains this:-
> Gary Wilson asks whether our brains evolved to handle the hyperstimulation of today's Internet enticements.
But that could be asked of anything on the internet to a degree. The dopamine hits we get from gaming be it match 3 mobile games or FPS's, the need to make those numbers ever increase on social media (subs, likes, points, etc), the joy of opening parcels from online shopping like opening presents.
Using the "any amount" argument basically means we should only use the net for boring work tasks and not even the work we enjoy (I love coding, I get a hit when people like the work I do for them).
Again as you say "everything in moderation" but I can not stand by an "any amount" argument.
> So far, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) has agreed that there is insufficient evidence to support diagnoses for sex and porn addiction. In 2010, the APA rejected the inclusion of “sex addiction” in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). A new condition called “hypersexual disorder” was proposed for the DSM-5 but, in 2012, the APA rejected it as well for lack of evidence.
> when UCLA researchers studied the response to viewing sexually explicit images in people who self-defined as being unable to regulate their porn viewing, the results showed no similar response [to addiction].... The authors concluded that there was no evidence to say that even problem sexual regulation fit the definition of addiction as defined by brain response and that these people simply had high sex drives.
>people who develop addictions initially show high levels of response in the pleasure centers of the brain... one of the hallmarks of true addiction is that the pleasure received from the object of the addiction wanes over time as the person no longer wants the object but, rather, needs the object. In contrast, even people who report very strong “addiction” to sex continue to show activation of the pleasure centers of the brain when viewing sexually explicit images. This response is similar to the response people have to chocolate, ice cream and other highly desired pleasures.
https://www.thedailybeast.com/your-porn-addiction-isnt-real
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-and-personal/2...
You might consider backing off the unsupported blanket statements like "100% of people feel better after quitting to watch porn" and "porn is unhealthy in any amount". As it is the site smells more like zealotry than a fair test.
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>When I vowed not to watch porn anymore, I could only do it for a short period of time
How are you supposed to answer if you've never vowed to never again watch porn...?
I might be addicted to my dog.
Should I seek help, or is my addiction socially approved so I'm all good?
We're going to be making changes and updates to the site and will try to make it better.
Brand new site.
Porn really affects us more than we realize.