I'd say an average of 30 minutes/day of gym/fitness is the bare minimum, but even double that can be very beneficial in many respects. You should find the time
I'm absolutely thrilled if I can find the time coinciding with the energy to do 30m a day at the gym. But as any parent who is not offloading all the work onto a beleaguered spouse can tell you: it's pretty rare when you have toddlers.