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Self worth is so fragile. I remember vividly being called a loser just one time in middle school. It has occurred to me at various times in life, even though I know the person who said it doesn't remember it, and they were also WRONG. Still, it gets me down.

I've not been seriously suicidal in life, but it occurs to me that thoughts of suicide maybe is not as difficult to reach as first appears.

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I've had to adopt the "couldn't care less" approach when someone directs what I feel to be an unsubstantiated claim in my direction.

Of course when the moment has passed, I'll mull over it if the person is usually friendly and then work through the claim like a detached third party to figure out how I should really feel/think about or act on what they said.

It's the only approach that has successfully worked to keep my feelings from obliterating my psyche for the rest of the day/week if a confrontation like that does happen.

I keep them insulated and examine them later.

Another way of looking at it is the "do I respect this person" approach". More often than not, someone just calling you a loser probably isn't someone you look up to. They're a hater and weirdly enough, we often let their opinions influence us more than people we cherish.

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