Women struggle too, but get scared away by creeps and being put in scary situations. Women need to feel safe, not fear rape, and not feel treated just like a sex object.
Just don't be creepy and respect women.
Just don't be creepy and respect women.
Please save me from the objectifying story, as both genders are gravely guilty of this (height requirements, demanding certain position and status from the men, very demanding list of character traits in general, all this while expecting appearance of someone professional like actors or celebrities).
I wholeheartedly support the notion that random girls on Tinder have no business being some random dude's therapist. But, the idea that crippling social anxiety is pretty much the same as being an objectyfing creep, and it's no wonder socially anxious people are single, is a bit cold.
I mean, both women and men suffer from relationship problems but men certainly commit suicide more. Discovering why that is, in a non-judgemental fashion, seems like a useful inquiry.
Tinder might be the wrong place for that.
Doing both of these and at best I'm friendzoned onto the Moon. Not working, sorry.
I've been where you are, and I suggest you consider that you're setting yourself up for failure through very poor internal monologue/narrative of what's going on. Dr. Nerd Love's videos [1] and blog on this and other related topics are highly recommended.