They just need to do like me! Start seeing their wife as the boss!
This is a reality even my boss cannot argue against. He understands it far too well. Don't jeopardize your relationship for something as temporary as a job, you can work as hard as you can all your time there only to be let go at the drop of a hat and replaced by two much cheaper college graduates.
when i request vacation the email reads "boss says i won't be at work between the following dates."