So sorry to hear about your mother.

But it seems to be a rule of life.

Rich get richer. Top performers get more/better offers.

Poor get poorer. Non-top performers get less/worse offers.

I remember reading something where Paul Graham of Ycombinator said top performers never apply for jobs. They are often referred and handed jobs. And on the other side, you have ton of (supposedly) not so great workers who are sending out job applications by the dozens trying to get a job.