Databases can handle multiple concurrent writes just fine and have since the 1970's.
https://www.cockroachlabs.com/blog/serializable-lockless-dis...
Say you're an ecomm, how do you update inventory on an item "concurrently"? If you're going to say "locks" or "atomic commit", that's exactly what I mean by "you have to serialize your writes".
If you can tolerate eventual consistencies (most problem can), than the database is no longer the slower piece.
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Multiversion_concurrency_contr...