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Here are some articles from 2009 that mention Alfie Kohn, who wrote "Punished by Rewards."

https://www.leanblog.org/2009/01/leanblog-podcast-57-alfie-k...

http://www.blog.montessoriforeveryone.com/are-kids-punished-...

This article also looks like a likely candidate for the OP: https://www.parentingscience.com/praise-and-intelligence.htm...

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Kohn goes a long way further. Don't praise your children just for "working" hard either -- that's just encouraging them to seek your external validation.

Instead, help nurture your children's own curiosity, interest, and experience in the things that they do.

Stop treating them like lab rats to be conditioned with praise, because we know exactly what happens when that praise inevitably ceases.

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