We all live 'at the whims of another'.
We are inherently social creatures because we can only flourish as a group.
There is no escaping one another.
The missing bit about power is that it's self-oriented as described in the article, but in reality, power is a responsibility, a burden, not an escape.
Powerful people usually get a few nice things in return for having to do a lot, and worry about a lot, and make heavy decisions.
It's wrong for anyone to suggest that being the 'king' or 'CEO' of anything is an easy job, it's usually a brutally hard job. If those people wanted 'freedom' they'd have retired early, lived on the relative cheap.
And of course most people simply don't want that kind of power anyhow.
But the reality is, most powerful people do not have 'control' over much.
CEO's who were not founders have very little control.
The 'general' layer in the Army, my god man, it's extremely political.
The reason I suggest is a degree of psychopathy: they just don't care. They accept their status, look upon other people as ants, and are mostly concerned with gaining favour from people at their level or higher.
Secondarily, it could be because they are mostly financially secure - unless something drastic happens, they won't have to worry.
Earning only $500K/year is a different zone than $80K. You can do the golfing, skiing, travel, day spa - i.e. whatever gets you in a happy place. You have the 'second escape home' and can send your kids to college without too much worry.
As an individual with a limited amount of resources carving out autonomous spaces and avoiding whoever is bugging you, which is fundamentally a creative activity, is almost always more fruitful than trying to engage the powers that be in some sort of struggle to obtain the upper hand.
Hacker culture is a pretty good example of this. Cyberspace was never really about challenging authorities as much as it was about avoiding authority all together by moving into some other space that was up until that point unpoliced and opened up the possibility to create new things in an environment that wasn't full of hierarchies and established rules.
I don't think so. Find something you want to do and others need or want from you.
If one is truly powerless, the latter will be taken without thought to the former. This is why tights are fundamentally empowering (and lacking in autocracies).