The model is trained to offer reply suggestions that have the highest chance of being accepted, from a large whitelist of the most common short replies. The whitelist contains many negative options. We're optimizing for click through rate. That's it. There's no editorial judgement, definitely not "‘no’ struck someone as too negative and they had to take it out."
We actually experimented with intentionally inserting more negative options to increase diversity. Doing this reliably causes a hit to our metrics.
Discovering this made me pretty happy about the world. Most people are generally pretty friendly to one another (at least over email!).