Ultimately, I decided I didn’t want to risk asking my manager for a release, and I certainly didn’t want to violate an enforceable non-compete without the blessing of my employer. So I scuttled the move.
I was disappointed, but I hold nothing against my employer or against the laws of NY. They hid nothing from me when I accepted the offer, and the noncompete was very limited in scope (geography, industry, and duration). If I had left for the competitor, I would have brought a lot of knowledge that I gained as a result of my position in the company. Not legally protected IP, mind you, but still valuable technical know-how and information about our customers’ biggest problems and the trade offs of various solutions. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to allow organizations to protect that kind of information.
Edit to add that I don’t believe all non-compete agreements are reasonable. Just that I think it’s misguided to ban them wholesale.