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I don't even speak the local language and if I leave I have to reimburse all the relocation and visa costs. I don't want to talk to my family because I don't want them to worry and I'm honestly embarrassed to talk with my friends. I don't really know what I should do because I was never treated this way in my entire career. I'm feeling just miserable.

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From your post it's hard to work out if the reason you were shouted at was due to a work issue, or someone being rude?

If it's the later just ignore it, don't let them get your back up; if it's a work issue ask them to explain carmly what was wrong as shouting doesn't solve the problem...

It was due a work issue. Basically my boss is not happy with performance.

Some people, and even cultures, are more into shouting than others are. Perhaps this is just normal. I've seen it in marriages, where a non-shouter joins up with a shouter. The non-shouter thinks that things are going very badly, while the shouter wouldn't mind some shouting back in the other direction and won't take complaints seriously unless shouted.

Good luck figuring out if this is the case.

Maybe your are still navigating the work culture in the company/region. Try to figure out how much they expect from their employees. If it’s unreasonably high, don’t blame yourself too much. Otherwise, try to have a constructive conversation with your peers and your manager. Hope you could find someone to talk to :)

Where is this?

Western Europe

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