Sure. Power monitoring is tricky. Rest are simple.
Power monitoring involves converting the mains voltage to DC that is almost proportional to the mains voltage. Then you would rectify it and downsize it and get it to a voltage level that whatever power management IC you use can accept. You also need to include fuses and other safety circuitry to ensure it doesn't exceed that threshold your microcontroller can accept. For example, if my uC works based off just 5 volts, I want to make sure I downsize my 120VAC to just 2.5V but still proportional, this means, when there is a spike, my uC can take a hit upto 5 volts, but that means my actual power supply has a spike of 100%, which means I'm getting 240VAC on a 120VAC outlet (which has never happened so far).
Then, for the actual turning on or off of switches itself, I just use relays and some relay/motor coil ICs to control them. Sorry I don't remember exactly as this was a year ago and this system is lying inside my wall. So I need to remove the switchboard (and use a lens) to find out the numbers. But then, you can always google for "Power management / mains voltage IC", you can find even ready made modules on eBay.
The tricky part is component layout since you are dealing with high voltage, it can form arcs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MAlyEMQxTN0
Not as powerful, but still a smaller version of those arcs. So, you want to use well rated components with decent thresholds. Eg. Don't use a low power relay, cheap capacitors, etc.
All of this is then passed on through uCs(ATTINY 85 + other uCs in the circuit) to some nrF wireless modules I bought in bulk on AliBaba through my uC
To be clear, each switchboard housing contains - a couple of relays, uCs, nRF modules, temperature and humidity sensors and some infrared sensors (I don't use them anymore). I believe they also have overvoltage protection and short circuit protection in built (because of an IC I use). It will simply turn the relay off in the event of a spike or short circuit.
BTW, AliBaba is the cheapest. Don't buy from AliExpress, it's usually plagued with dropshippers (god, I hate them so much) who just keep hefty margins off a factory somewhere that you can find on AliBaba. Other alternatives, but still under AliBaba group: 1688.com, tmall.com
If you think about it, in cloud lingo, we would call this architecture as "micro services" except that there's one big monolith which is my mains module run by an old laptop motherboard. (Sony Vaio FZ series)
This nrF module talks to a an old laptop motherboard through serial, that passes information to a REST API. This laptop motherboard is located where usually all the mains connections go in. One thing I didn't use on purpose is smart trippers/circuit breakers. Sure, they're smart, but you're relying on someone else for security while also giving away your power usage consumption data. Besides, if a circuit breaker goes off, you want to know why it happened before turning it on, so I find it pointless to make them be able to turn on automatically or from your phone when I can just walk to my mains box and turn it on myself.
The REST API is built with Phoenix/Elixir, and is hosted on Google Cloud AppEngine. I haven't had any downtime so far (yet) and is blazing fast. Like I said, I'm a Google Cloud consultant, so this is what I do for a living. You may have luck doing the same with AWS/DigitalOcean. Just use something you know well.
And don't ever get into doing devops for this kind of thing. It's more critical than you think. So, don't make choices like try to save up on the servers by running your own instance on a DO droplet for 5 bucks a month. Sure, you saved up some cash, but the devops it takes you will cost you more. More importantly, if some hacker gets in, you're doomed!
Once, when I was in my house, the lights and TV suddenly started turning on and off in the hall room. This was right after I came back from watching Insidious and it was really scary. Then I found out, it happened because there was a really fat mouse on the motherboard (don't know how it got there) walking around the jumper wires. Haha!
Hope this helps, sorry I will try to update with specifics maybe in a separate blog post here.