Do you have a source on that? Tokyo is famously known for having largely flat housing prices over the last 20 years[1]. In fact, in Japan, most houses are considered depreciating assets [2].
[1] https://marginalrevolution.com/marginalrevolution/2016/08/la...
[2] http://freakonomics.com/podcast/why-are-japanese-homes-dispo...
It could also be that property values never went up to begin with in Tokyo, and remained at market equilibriumm, I.e. prices there reflect simply the cost to produce the unit, plus some profit margin. Things never got out of hand in Tokyo like they have in SF and NYC (though the latter, to a much lesser extent).
The value of most commodities stays flat once it reaches that equilibrium (eg. most food, clothing).
The argument that housing prices in SF would fall with increased density seems to be another way of making the claim that SF housing is currently experiencing “surge pricing”, so to speak.
It is difficult, if not impossible, to on the one hand supply large amounts of affordable housing and on the other to not negatively affect those benefiting from the lack of it.
But ultimately it isn't me you have to convince, but those who would risk their property values. If you do that, then you have a solution to the situation.
The people that lose in such a crash are property developers, landlords, and home-owners that planned to sell and buy in another region.
The people that benefit in such a crash include people who currently can't afford to live here, renters that currently can't afford to buy here, renters who currently have too many roommates, renters who can't afford to leave their rent-controlled unit, people who could buy a larger or nicer place, businesses where people spend the portion of their income which no longer goes to housing, businesses that can hire into the region more easily, and everyone who enjoys a community with a more diverse range of residents.
You take it as a given that a crash associated with actually affordable housing would be unwelcome. I think it should only be unwelcome to those who see the housing supply as an investment vehicle, rather than as housing. To those who just want to live here, or live here more comfortably, a crash might be very welcome indeed.