obviously there are many others who do not use monorepo (amazon comes to mind) but it's reasonable to claim that they are actually widely used and fundamental when used
They do have some benefits, but they also come with an immense cost
Uber has navigation, route optimization, queuing, etc. Facebook has to propagate activity our to massive and complex social network graphs.
I'm not discounting the toughness of operating at Airbnb's scale, but from my limited understanding it seems like they are not solving a new problem.
https://medium.com/netflix-techblog/towards-true-continuous-...
Every problem you could have with bad dependencies is entirely self-inflicted. The Right Thing™ is to choose a known-good version, and update when you have the bandwidth to pay down the tech debt.