It turns out that the reason theories like topology exist is not for their usefulness in distinguishing cups from plates but for their being interesting to mathematicians (and secondarily for their applications to anther things that are interesting mathematicians).
A final question: is a bowl like a cup or a plate? Somewhere in between?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Topology#Applications
https://www.livescience.com/51307-topology.html
https://dragons8mycat.com/2013/08/20/gis-tips-what-is-topolo...
... and more.
Mathematics is about understanding connections and commonalities, and then studying those to see what we can learn. To you, perhaps, a cup and a plate are "clearly not the same thing", but there are commonalities, and in that context, learning something about one will then apply to the other.
Is the solid/liquid/gas classification good? Is a ingot of gold the same than an ingot of lead. They are both "solid". Sometimes "solid" is a good concept for a classification, sometimes not. If the 16-ton weight is going to fall over the roadrunner head from 30 foots, you don't care too much about the material it is made. Probably it's enough to classify it as "solid" (with a few hidden assumptions, like it's much denser than the air).
Topology is good if you care about topological properties. But sometimes the property you care is an unsuspected topological property.
Sometimes you want to make a transformation to a mathematical object to change a property, but you don't want a very crazy transformation, and the property change you want changes something that changes something that changes a topological property. So if you allow only transformations that are not very crazy and don't change the topology, then you are doomed and can't do the transformation you want. So you get a proof that something is imposible.
Whether something is good (that is, useful) at some level of abstraction depends on what we need to do with it. For some use cases and calculations (such as those modeled by topology) the difference between a cup and a plate is irrelevant.
For cooking, of course, the difference between a cup and a plate is relevant. But for a dishwasher it's again irrelevant: you put them both in and it washes them with the same streams of water and soap.