Kind of the same. Loved Cities: Skylines to death but the traffic AI killed it for me. It gets to the point where you're stuck building unrealistic designs to workaround the flawed AI pathfinding. It's true you can mod it but it requires a ton of extra manual work to reassign lane routing in each and every city intersection, on top of killing performance.

I'm just waiting for the sequel to the game where they may open up the traffic AI to modders more, or fix some of the stuff broken with the existing engine. That said, it's become kind of the gold standard for city sims so OP should definitely check it out.