Neither of those two parties is doing anything wrong; you just invented fanciful abstract offenses to be argumentative. TSA agents are doing something concretely wrong every time they grope my genitals, even if it is sanctioned by the state.

It's certainly unoptimal that we'd ever have to be rude to people to change things for the better, but we don't actually live in a wholly civil society, evidenced by the fact that my genitals get groped every time I book a flight.