I can only disagree.
I have coworkers going to meet-ups. And trust me, I know, since they can't stop speaking about it. And what do they talk about ? Internal meetup politics, how X said what to Y, etc...aka the usual human chatter. Also, they spend a fair share of their workday actually preparing and organizing those.
I seriously doubt they're the best engineers out there, they just have a hobby and like to talk to about it like everybody else.
Also, not going to meetups doesn't mean you have to do a 9-5, what I observe is that it's actually going to meetups which forces hours on you since you got to leave at a predefined hour to not be late there.
Maybe the meetup scene is very different where you are, but around there it's the same ~30 people going to every possible meetup subject to have a friendly chat, chug a few beers and listen to a talk rarely given by an expert but rather someone who spent a handful of hours hacking on something fun. I'm just not convinced it makes anyone better.