I agree. HOAs are still relatively rare outside of SoCal, so this issue is unlikely to pop up for 99.999% of the US population.
This seems incorrect. They are more common than you think, especially in neighborhoods built within the last 30-40 years.
But, most of those mid-70s neighborhoods have fairly light-weight rules... Some architecture review, but generally not the crazy "can't leave garage door open" or "potted plants must all be in pots 13.25" in diameter" stuff.
https://foundation.caionline.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/...
I don't think I've seen a development in the last 30 years that doesn't have an HOA, and it seems like like all of Florida/Texas is HOA.
I'm on a condo board currently and those are an entirely separate thing, much more intense, much more money, and much more service (when run well).