Intel and ARM are just approaching the same points from different directions, that's all.
We can equally say that you can't extrapolate and assume that your 45W x86, with lowered clock and voltage, will fit in the power budget of a mobile phone and still give good performance. But all these companies are throwing a lot of engineering effort at it and making solid progress. There's not some reason why x86, the architecture, should be faster than ARM. Intel has been enjoying a process advantage for many years now, and an enviable R&D budget, but that R&D budget is spent fighting against diminishing returns and in the meantime, competitors are catching up. As long as everyone can buy roughly the same node (a big "if", but looks like we're close enough), diminishing returns will bring everyone closer to parity.
But, benchmarks show this a bit better. Geekbench (I'm looking at Single Core):
https://browser.geekbench.com/mac-benchmarks
https://browser.geekbench.com/ios-benchmarks
iPad Pro 11-inch (iPad8,1) has the A12X at 2.5 GHz, score ~5000.
iMac 27-inch retina (iMac18,3) has the i7-7700K at 4.2 GHz, score ~5700.
This is not a cherry-picked comparison... this is just a comparison of whatever happens to be top of the line in both categories. Note that multi-core benchmarks will paint a slightly different picture, but that's very natural, since you can get a Mac with 18 core Xeons. Presumably, adding more cores to a mobile processor when you switch to desktop and can handle proportionally higher TDP, while not trivial, is not especially difficult either.
I assume that different benchmarks give different results as well. This is just one benchmark I know has results for both platforms.