No they are not that hard to fly. A bare-bones helicopter with nothing more than the minimum parts to qualify as a helicopter is indeed an unsteady beast. But such helicopters are rare, used mostly for training purposes. Modern machines, even ancient ones, have things like gyroscopes to take much of the load off the pilot. And autopilots really do work (auto, not autonomous). They can hold a steady heading/alt. Feed them data from a radar altimeter and they can hover like a rock.
The computers can fly the aircraft, they can literally make it move as needed, but that is a totally different problem than deciding where to move the aircraft. The pilot's job is making the judgement calls necessary to keep the aircraft safe. Show me a computer than can determine whether an approach is safe enough to execute, whether the weather en route is acceptable. Show me a computer than an judge which path to take to avoid carrying an unsteady slung load over someone's head.