Yes. In a market economy it is wildly unfair to take family assistance because many people do not have access to it.
For example, when you are born poor, you develop skills that someone who is wealthier does not have the opportunity to learn.
Being in favor of a better world tomorrow doesn't mean that you can't play by the rules of the world today.
Every election, I vote for policies that will considerably increase my taxes, but at the same time, I expect my CPA to make sure that I only pay the taxes that I'm legally required to pay.
So you can still have grandma watch your kid all you like, while the person who has no living relatives can still have a kid and hold a job by taking advantage of subsidized daycare.
Maybe parents shouldn't get to make decisions.
I am not liking where this thread is going.
Not vaccinating your children not only affects your immediately family, but everyone's children around you. That is the most obvious example, others include indoctrinating children in religion is another.