No, this is a common frustration of the entire community. People feel powerless, so they try and help, but you aren't helping. You either cause irritation because it's then ten thousandth time I've heard that advice, or frustration because you are showing a deep lack of understanding.
> When my users are trying to tell me what is causing a bug and they're drastically wrong, I don't feel insulted that they think I don't know my own system. I just smile and have a nice conversation with them. There is no point in picking fights, and the person trying to help is not the one picking the fight.
No. Don't. The relationships are not the same. An illness that affects every part of your life is deeply personal, and you are faced every day with stigma because of it. You're not suggesting useless information, because of the culture and proxy you have to it, you're suggesting the affected person hasn't tried hard enough.
> But I believe you're taking it too negatively too personally when there's no need to do so. I imagine that isn't too great for personal happiness either.
Getting told that I need to listen politely when someone is suggesting an idea of how to fix my genetics is personal. You don't tell someone that they shouldn't be using a wheelchair, or should be using a different one, unless you have a direct and professional connection with their health.
> Where there is no ill intent, insults should not be taken.
Insult was not immediately taken. They were repeatedly informed that this avenue of conversation is insulting. They responded by telling me I'm wrong. As have you, now.
You can't imagine my life with chronic disease? Fine. I'm happy to guide you in interacting with someone with it.
Step one, is not assume you know better. Your suggestions are unwelcome, because they carry stigma. They remind me of all the people I have faced who have told me that my disease is either not real, or able to be overcome by one simple trick.
I'm not angry at you - but I have to say, you have been very... Unhelpful.
More unhappiness comes from misguided altruism, than quiet acceptance.