My Life at 47 Is Back to What It Was Like at 27
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With a fulltime job and you working till death, you don't have time to do much. The local eagles/lions/moose/etc club, you at least got to go out and have dinner, chat with people, make friends, etc.
I checked out the local Masons lodge, and I was at least 20 years younger so I didn't ask to be sponsored. My friend in Ireland joined the Masons, he says the lodges are filled with younger people from 20s and up.
I read the "Starting over" and think, did you change your hobbies and activities too? There's so much to do now, how can one be bored. Even a trip to the library and parks is cheap and free.
* There are standing meeting nights that I can go to for social contact
* It does good work in the community
* It lets you meet folks outside of work circles
* It lets you have an opportunity to build soft and leadership skills
* If I have to leave for a while because of work or other time commitments, I know I can rejoin in 1, 5 or 10 years and be welcomed back.
Highly recommend. Even easier if you can get a group of folks to join. And most of the older members I chatted with were thrilled to have new members.
(ps. fwiw - portland or)
I've never experience this, is it common for some group of people to use 180 to mean "the same" vs "completely different"?
In the midwest, to do a 180 is to go in a completely different direction, and to come full-circle is to return to where you were after some long journey.
Well, they did just blow $77 billion dollars on a non existent high speed rail. So yeah, maybe it is a West coast thing.
I can imagine "360 degrees" being used by people who are bad at math or not thinking about it, though.
In the article the author really means 360, though, because she's back where she started.
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> Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded
> But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked… You are not as fat as you imagine Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum
> The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday
Sadly not available in the EU, so I can't even confirm the link isn't broken. If it's not, that's the original column, titled "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" from 1997 by Mary Schmich, on which the song was based :)
But, the piece is well written and I don't think the author is sad, nor asking for sympathy.
So I'm conflicted in how I feel about it. The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.
It also seems like they'd be pretty unhappy if they'd had a life like yours (father of two ...), more because it's not suitable for them rather than there anything being wrong with it.
Overall, seems like an interesting - and potentially useful reminder that "it takes all kinds to make the world go around". ;)
The way I read it, it seemed very much like she was an independent woman who really didn't have any great yearning for a close relationship with a man. There's a lot of women out there like that, and honestly, we'd all be a lot better off if they would just admit this to themselves, and stop looking for boyfriends/husbands and just look for casual relationships instead. Someone like that isn't going to be a good relationship partner, and then is going to cause a lot of emotional devastation for some unlucky man.
This article actually made me feel really good but I am a divorced woman of 40. It's nice to see other women in the same situation enjoying life without feeling the need to partner up again. Some of us were just made to be solitary creatures.
this works on many other sites as well.
I did quit using Medium (content create) over that shit.