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Comment by thisisweirdok | Hacker News Reader

Just because someone's an asshole doesn't mean they're autistic.

I've read the book and had a visceral reaction to it personally. It is called "How to win friends and influence people" after all. Seems to be a love it or hate it type of thing.

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I can see that kind of reaction. When I read it, the book seemed to be a lot about giving people what they want by changing things about yourself and your mindset. For some people that's a good idea (if you're a selfish jerk), and for some people that's a terrible idea (if you already give in too much to other people).

As someone who moved to the US at a young age, reading How to Make Friends and Influence People explained a lot of the apparent insincerity/fakeness that bothered me in both business and personal interactions, and that had been very much a mystery to me.

How did that go again?

   Dear $FIRSTNAME $LASTNAME,

   I am writing you to emphasise how much your business personally means to me and how $EMOTIONAL_STATE I feel about it...

Also remember that he was a huckster, for example changing his name so people would associate him with the steel Carnegies (no relation).

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