On the plus side, other automakers do not have remote access as such. All the other automakers "hacks" have required physical access as a result, although a few researchers (2 teams only) have managed remote attacks.
[0] https://www.wired.com/2016/08/jeep-hackers-return-high-speed...
Plus, CAN bus is just layer 2/3, you could build secure extensions on top of it, but I agree it is insecure by default.
Because some people value the pro-Tesla narrative more than the truth. This is too bad, because one can value the pro-Tesla narrative and the truth at the same time. (Putting the truth first, of course.)
So its like the smart home.
Two major differences though:
1) There are accessible ways for you to secure your home network, not so much when it comes to the car network.
2) Someone taking control of your car poses a more immediate risk to your life and the lives of others on the road around you than having your home network hacked.