My dad was the same way. He constantly complained about me not helping but when we agreed on me helping with something he usually changed the time and then I had already other plans. It was constant drama for really no good reason. He also never showed me how to do something. On the other hand my mom usually discussed what to do, when and how, and things got done with much less friction.

And yes, it really reminds me of some managers that constantly change plans and then are surprised that people don't follow enthusiastically.