> It hurts and is potentially embarrassing and SCARY, because it is a prelude to rape,

Agreed. It is also highly unprofessional.

> which in turn is a prelude to death and/or babies

I think this is a little bit over the top, there are short-term birth control pills and most rapist do not kill their victim, and this is no longer the case:

> Fathers have killed daughters for getting raped, husbands have killed or abandoned their wives for getting raped.

Accusing someone with rape has been used as a weapon for a long time now, I don't think it's that surprising, that a lot of people are skeptic.