Ask HN: How do you cope with an inevitable pain?
Sorry if this not technical, but I’m posting here for the insighful reponses I expect from the HN community.
I recently had a big argument with my wife (married for 7 months, knew each other for 5 years, mostly a long distance relationship), which might lead to a divorce, as I don’t see a workaround for our incompatibilities.
I’m already feeling a huge pain thinking about it, and I’ve been completely shutdown, depressed for the last 2 days. This is my first relationship and we love each other, I just can’t help it even if my brain tells me that’s the only logical solution.
I know pain will disappear after some time, but how do you deal with it when it is present? How do you continue functionning, living normally when you know that something bad is inevitabely coming like a break-up or a close one going to die because of cancer, etc? Any tips/brain hacks?
Thank you