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Discovering the fake perfected Instagram version of her daughter.

Maybe she couldn't deal with the not-so-perfect normal life daughter, and that is why said daughter shut her out.

Maybe not - but after "ruining" the Led Zeppelin song for he daughter, now she went after the one other thing that seems to make her daughter happy, which is Instagram. What if that article now gives her daughter unwanted fame and ruins that part of her life, too? Maybe it is still about control, not participating in someone's life?

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If the daughter thinks that a song is suddenly uncool or ruined just because her mum liked it when she was younger and wanted to share that with her, then pardon my French, but the daughter sounds like a bit of a cunt. I’m sure there are a lot of people here who have picked up some top tunes from their parents.

Of course we don’t see the full picture here, but I think it’s great that the mum sat down to play a tune that her daughter likes on the guitar.

My perspective of the article, which seems to have not even crossed your mind: The mother's actions aren't those of someone trying to understand her daughter, but instead co-opt her daughter's interests to make it all about herself instead of her daughter.

It's not so much that it's "uncool" or "ruined", but that her mother isn't allowing her to find her own identity, trying to pull her back into defining herself in terms of her mother. And she doesn't want to be just her mother's add-on.

We certainly don't know the full story, so I am not giving an absolute judgement. It was just a guess. I have to say that the mother is using her daughter for her articles is already a huge red flag to me. Especially since according to article, the mother is perfect and it is all the weirdness of her daughter that is to blame.

On the other hand, of course, people have to be able to discuss their parenting issues, and it is important that there are also articles about that. I don't know a good solution for that problem.

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